圣经问答：撒母耳记下第十一课
撒母耳记下13章：暗嫩与他玛
1. 神，藉着先知拿单的口，告诉大卫王说，“刀剑必不离开你的家”（撒母耳记下 12:10）。阅读撒母耳记下13章时，请记住这句话。
2. 暗嫩，他玛，约拿达都是谁？有什么血缘关系？暗嫩是大卫王的长___。
3. 请述说暗嫩用什么计谋才强奸他玛。
4. 暗嫩至少犯了六个罪，是什么？请列出来。
5. 4节：“我爱上了…他玛”。暗嫩讲这句话对不对？暗嫩把“爱”下什么定义？在他的心目中，谁可以决定“爱”的定义？
6. 他玛说什么试着阻止暗嫩的性骚扰？与一个自私，满心情欲的愚妄人讲道理，容易不容易？
7. 15节：“…暗嫩极其恨她，那恨她的心比先前爱她的心更甚…”。这句话是否令您惊讶？请解释此句话的意思。
8. 押沙龙是谁？押沙龙对此事反应如何？
9. 大卫王关心不关心此事？您认为大卫王应该有何反应？
10. 请述说押沙龙如何计谋替他玛报仇。
11. 虽然我们不为暗嫩的死亡难过，但是此谋杀案让我们知道沙龙是什么样的人？
12. 本来约拿达是暗嫩的“朋友”，告诉他如何能够跟他玛睡觉。现在，大卫王从约拿达的口，才得知押少龙已有两年的心愿做什么？您认为约拿达为什么没有挽救他“朋友”暗嫩的生命，警告他防备沙龙的凶手？
13. 押沙龙前往哪里脱罪？大卫天天为哪个儿子哀伤？
14. 大卫王怎么能够疼爱一位像沙龙的儿子？（请注意：以后，大卫的疼爱差不多要使得他失去他的王国。）
15. 从您的生命当中，或者自己的经历，或者在别人的身上，是否能够指出一些事例“证实”撒母耳记下13章15节（“…暗嫩极其恨她，那恨她的心比先前爱她的心更甚…”）。
16. 圣经再三地劝我们要控制己身，不放纵私欲，爱惜自己及他人。在圣经里，请找出这样的劝勉和警告。
17. 报仇时常有用吗？古人有话说，“君子报仇，十年不晚”。押沙龙不需要十年，两年就够了，但是，王子押沙报仇对他有用吗？对大卫王全家有用吗？对他玛有用吗？对国家有用处吗？神说：“伸冤在我，我必报应”（申命记32:35及罗马书12:19）。有关“报仇”，基督徒看得出中国人传统观念和圣经的教导有很大的差别。从中基督徒应该学习什么？
18. 大卫王有很多孩子，因此他不应该疼爱押沙龙。风闻有一位母亲个别对她四个孩子说，“我全部的爱我都给你”。意思是“我全部的爱，我都给你一个人”。她对每一个孩子都说了这句话。妈妈有这个本事吗？妈妈是否向孩子撒谎？你我是否疼爱我们的孩子？我们是否疼爱某一个孩子超过爱其他的孩子？
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2 Samuel Lesson Eleven
2 Samuel chapter 13: Amnon and Tamar
1. Through the prophet Nathan, God told King David, “The sword will never depart from your house” (2 Samuel 12:10). Please remember this statement as you read and study 2 Samuel 13.
2. Who are Amnon, Tamar and Jonadab? Explain their relationship. Amnon is David’s ___ son.
3. Explain the scheme Amnon used to rape Tamar.
4. Amnon committed at least six sins; name them.
5. Vs. 4: “I’m in love with Tamar…” Was Amnon correct? What was Amnon’s definition of love? As far as Amnon was concerned, who could determine the meaning of “love”?
6. What did Tamar say to try to prevent Amnon from molesting her? Is it easy to talk sense into a conceited and foolish person whose heart is full of lust?
7. Vs. 15: “Then Amnon was seized with a very great loathing for her; indeed, his loathing was even greater than the lust he had felt for her” (NRSV). [Note NIV: “Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her…”] Does this statement surprise you? Explain what this statement means.
8. Who is Absalom? What was Absalom’s reaction to all this?
9. Did King David express concern about this situation? What do you think David should have done?
10. Explain how Absalom planned to revenge the abuse of Tamar.
11. Although we do not mourn the death of Amnon, from the murder of Amnon we learn what about the person Absolam?
12. At the outset, Jonadab was Amnon’s “friend,” and told him how to get to sleep with Tamar. Now however, it is from Jonadab’s mouth that King David learns that for two years Absalom has wanted to do what? Why do you think that Jonadab did not save the life of his “friend,” by telling him to avoid the murderous hand of Absalom?
13. Where did Absalom go to avoid punishment? Which son’s absence did David mourn?
14. How could King David love so dearly a child like Absalom? (Note: Later we will see how David’s doting love for Absalom almost cost him the kingdom.)
15. From your life, or from your own experience, or from something you have seen in other people, can you give some examples that would “prove” the statement in 2 Samuel 13:15 (“Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her…” NIV.)
16. Over and again the Bible urges us to control ourselves, not to give in to physical lust, and to love both ourselves and others. Find and list some such Bible exhortations and warnings.
17. Is revenge useful? There is an old expression in China which says that when it comes to revenge, ten years is not too long for a good man to wait (to take revenge). Absalom did not need ten years; two were sufficient. Did revenge help Prince Absalom? Did it help his family? Did it benefit Tamar? Was it useful to the kingdom? God said, “Revenge is mine; I will repay” (Deuteronomy 32:35 and Romans 12:19). Christians can see that there is quite a big difference between traditional Chinese thought and what the Bible teaches regarding revenge. What should Christians learn from all of this?
18. King David had many children, therefore he should not have doted on Absalom. It is said that a certain mother told each of her four children, “I give all of my love to you” (i.e., “I give all of my love to you as an individual”). Is a mother able to do this? Did the mother lie to her children? Do you and I dote on or spoil any of our children? Do we love one child more than we love our other children?
圣经问答
撒母耳记下第十三章：暗嫩与他玛
Bible Study Questions: 2 Samuel Lesson Eleven
2 Samuel Chapter 13: Amnon and Tamar
作者：谢德华 ©By Edward Short
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